Persuing your dreams

I have spread my dreams beneath your feet. Tread softly because you tread on my dreams.W.B. Yeats

Are you a good listener? Do you support your loved ones beyond your own limiting beliefs and allow them to have their dreams?

It's really hard when you love someone unconditionally, whether they be blood or better than blood, and find you can't really share with them your heart because the message you always get back is, 'you need to be more realistic', 'you can have that .....someday' or 'other people are already doing x,y or z with more experience','you can't afford an upgrade', 'you don't need _______to better your business' The list goes on.

Or the longtime close friend who knows your dreams better than anyone else on the planet. When one of those dreams falls through, the friend or loved one isn't there to really support but to tell you why you were wrong in the first place and how they knew better.

It's always jarring when someone you deeply care about, who supposedly holds similar beliefs of abundance, prosperity and manifesting has a negative response to a goal of your own. It doesn't make sense to limit someones goals because of a belief you have about how long it should take them to earn the money they desire or the timing of when you think they should have another child or if they shouldn't get married. That's about you not them.

It's one thing when someone who doesn't mean that much in your life is the dream squasher. It's quite different when you realize that those you hold the dearest in your life can't support your vision for yourself. It can cut so deep it's hard to breath. Those moments often feel deafeningly lonely and have the capacity to create a recoil so strong in a relationship, it doesn't survive.

The next time someone you love is sharing with you their ideas, hopes and dreams, pause before you respond. Ask yourself, 'Am I responding from my own sense of fear, lack, low self esteem or am I responding in supporting my friend in their ability to accomplish their dreams?' The deal is you may not be able to see that dream for yourself. And that is okay.

We are constantly evolving. Give the gift of unconditional support to your loved ones in their pursuit of dreams and goals. They will navigate the way. You will receive an abundance of support for your own dreams in return.

Peace,
Kim

Gratitude is contagious!

I want to share with you a website that I find to be inspiring and helpful. The original goal of this site was to get 1 million people to receive and participate in daily gratitude. I signed up over two years ago and still find it to be an inspiring pick me up.

The address is www.GoGratitude.com You can receive 42 days of gratitude via email. They do not spam your box. Make sure you watch the flash movie. There is something that creates an energetic shift while you watch. There is a new site www.WorldGratitude.com It's on my list of sites to check out.

You know, the more gratitude we acknowledge for ourselves the easier it is to share with others. The more we share the vibration of gratitude with others the better our quality of life. By sharing this energy we give each other the opportunity to enjoy a the same up lifting energy.

Now I know gratitude can be a challenge at times. Here's what I do. I go to the basics. Somedays, I am grateful for the simple things. The other day I was grateful for a dying plant because I was learning how to better help it thrive.

If you really want to excel in the gratitude department, be actively grateful in moments of stress and challenge. Somedays, I am grateful for the obnoxious customer service agent on the other end of the phone because I am seeing how far I have come in life in my ability to compassionately handle this type of interaction.

A way to ground with gratitude is by keeping a journal. Consistently write down three gratitudes a day. They need to be different everyday. The energy becomes stuck if you write the same three things everyday.

If you are ambitious, try 9 for 90. I have given this assignment in many of my classes. That's writing down 9 gratitudes for a period of 90 consecutive days. Those who have done this have seen some amazing changes in their lives.

My gratitudes for today:

I am gratefull for/that....

1. My daughter's cold clearing her body
2. The sunny weather we have today
3. The response I am getting for the workshop
4. My creativity
5. I found a reputable place to spay our foster kitten
6. My husband's willingness to clean out clutter
7. I don't have to go to the grocery store today
8. The Blue Jay that is at the feeder right now (beautiful!)
9. The house we live in

This took less than 5 minutes and they are all things I feel a connection to.

What are you gratefull for today?

Kim

Right vs Peaceful

Ahh the vat of family crap! Do you happen to have that person or people in your family who is always spouting off their opinion as if it were absolute truth and because it flowed from their golden lips makes it all the more special?

You know the kind, they make global statements, spout their beliefs on politics, healthcare and child rearing just to name a few. In their world they are always right and conversational social grace is no where to be found. I am sure, those of you who have experienced this can add your own adjectives.



Well guess what, not only did I grow up in it, I married into it. Go figure on that one!(Mind you, I am not referencing my husband...he, somehow missed out on that ancestral DNA) Also, I have to say, not all family members of either side are this way.

Recently, I have had the opportunity to be around this particular behavior. Pic a topic and before I knew it, I was in the vat of crap and sinking fast! I wanted to speak up and say that it's not my experience or that's not what I believe to whatever topic was being blathered about in the moment. It never helps. I have tried. Even saying something as benign as 'That is not my experience.' creates a back lash. I am never heard or my thoughts and beliefs respected. Then it hit me....'observe'.

I started with what was happening for me. My throat chakra was closing, my heart rate was up and my breathing had changed. 'What am I feeling right now?', Disrespected and unheard. Why? Because the people in this situation can't allow for a differing opinion or belief. It threatens their existence. Do I feel limited in this moment? Yes. I realized that by feeling disrespected and unheard even devalued to a certain extent, I was emotionally and energetically supporting their limiting beliefs and victimizing myself at the same time!!

Wow!

I asked my self the following questions
Do I need to be right?NO.
Do I need to express my beliefs in order to feel more secure in what I believe?NO.
What do I hope to accomplish by expressing my opinion?'being heard
Where does my need to be heard come from? My Ego.
What is the cost of being heard in this group?My inner peace. Plus I get the consolation prize of connecting with and supporting their need for an adversarial interaction which will leave me feeling off kilter for days.

Conclusion....My emotional, mental and physical peace is worth so much more than engaging in this pattern of behavior.

I then thought, 'What can I do right now to feel better?' Politely leave the room. The need to use the bathroom is always a good reason. From there I wandered upstairs to the kitchen and hung out with others who were from out of town and had a pleasant conversation.

How peaceful!
Kim

Computer issues....damn that Mercury retrograde!

Hi everyone,

I haven't fallen off the planet or ascended into the afterlife. My internet service has been up and down in my area for over a week now. They, being the ones who know things at Comcast, say the problem has been fixed. Time will tell.

I found it interesting that this started during Mercury Retrograde. In case you are wondering, that is when Mercury has the appearance of rotating backwards in our sky. From an astrological stand point, it can wreak havoc on electronics, all forms of communication and objects of a mechanical nature. Such as cars.

There much more information than that about Mercury Retrograde which I may expand on in another post.

I am back and will resume posting!

Kim

Ah the Aspen Leaves

I will never forget my first outing to look at the Aspen trees. My friends had been making a big deal about it for weeks. The day finally came, we loaded up the car and headed for the trees!

Now mind you, I was going with my east coast knowledge of leaves and how spectacular they are in the fall. Loads of color ranging from purple, rust, burgandy to gold, orange and fire red. As we drove toward the mountains my friends were chattering away about the trees. I thought, wow! this must be something. My expectations were building.

Finally, the car came to a stop. We all piled out of it. Cameras were snapping and people were ohhing and ahhing at yellow leaves. Huh? Yellow? That's it?!!? Are you kidding? These people need to travel more!

Since then, I have come to appreciate the annual journey in search of the Aspen. I think they are beautiful in their own way. What I love most about this trek is the time spent with loved ones. We take roads we haven't traveled before and always see a new sights. The conversation is always good!

This year we stumbled into Silver Plume. It's definately got that old mining town feel with a few residents and stores that are hanging on. Among all of the old buildings was this perfect spot. It was a playground with a pic nic tables. We decided to stop have dinner and let daughter run around for a while. The local dog joined us, a beautiful blond and white huskey. You could tell he knew the routine. He even had a church key on his collar.

It was a perfect day!

How did you spend your most recent perfect day? You know, the kind of day that stays with you. A day when you took a time out and simply enjoyed the journey.

Peace,

Kim

Nachos and Manifesting

This past weekend I was working a fair in Loveland, CO. While on a break, I decided I wanted something warm to eat. The only thing that appealed to me were the Nachos. They came with cheese sauce and salsa and enough chips to feed four people.

Having sat for the past few hours I decided to walk around the fair while having a few nachos. I happened to get caught talking with a salesman for some new health thing. While listening to his pitch, I was thinking, "I want to get rid of these nachos. I want to get away from this guy."

Within seconds a lady and her mother walked by. The mother stopped, took one of the nachos, dipped it in the sauce and cheese. All the while telling me how nice it was that I was hading out nachos. She even asked if that is what I do all day.

The daughter looked stunned. I was doing my best not to laugh. I simply replied, "I got the nachos at the concession stand." It dawned on the mother that she was helping herself to my food. Of course she started apologizing. I told her it was fine and gave them to her because I was done.

As I walked away from that exchange I had to laugh because I manifested with in seconds of setting the intention, getting rid of the nachos and the salesman the at the same time.

The more we acknowledge the subtle things we manifest everyday, the easier it is to receive what we consider to be the 'big' goals.

Happy manifesting!
Kim

The perverbial brick wall

Have you ever felt like you were banging your head against that darn brick wall ? Sometimes until your face is bloody and your skull is cracked?

Yeah....me too...sorta.

Since the economy took a dive, there has been a pattern emerging in people's lives. For some it's subtle, others not so much. It's one that leaves people feeling a number things. They include feelings of being stalled, spinning wheels, bouts of hopelessness and the old time favorite, all consuming fear.

I believe the economy tanking is one of those moments in which we are being gifted by a loving and kind Universe. We are being given the opportunity to let go of what isn't working. Let go of beliefs that no longer help us. Release what we have been putting out into the atmosphere, whether by action, thought or deed that hasn't gotten us any closer to living the the life of our dreams.

People are having to make choices that they wouldn't have considered a year or even six months ago. Some choices are gut wrenching. While other choices come with a sense of ease. The choices people are making may not make much since if you follow the line of thinking we were indoctrinated into by our society. Educate yourself, work hard, have lots of friends, stay close to your family, and own stuff and lots of it! Boy has that worked for the masses.

The way to know what you are being asked to release is to become aware of what fears are calling to us in the dead of night. What's working on you when you go to the bathroom in the middle of the night? What thoughts persist during your waking hours? What are the dominant topics of your conversations? What creates the most tension between you and your partner?

Once you connect to that issue, who would you become if you release it? What would happen for you? What beliefs are being held around that issue which simply aren't true?

I know someone who has been working toward financial independence for sometime now. He reads all the books, listens to all the right things. Follows through on suggestions in the books and tapes and seen minimal movement. He kept asking himself, in an open reflective way, What else do I need to do to align myself with my goal?

He started noticing where his focus was being drawn that didn't fit with how he wanted to be in his life. One such place was his relationship with his childhood friend. He hadn't felt good about it for a number of years. He had noticed that after interacting with his buddy that he no longer felt good about himself or his friend. At first he thought it was all him and tried to fix it. He even talked with his friend about his feelings.

Finally, he realized he had to let go of the relationship. He thought it would be heart breaking. Instead, he felt a sense of peace and lightness. He noticed his general outlook on life changed from one of a self criticising to self acceptance. His financial life has been steadily improving.

Others are being challenged to make more drastic, unconventional choices, such as giving up the Mercedes for a Toyota. Still others are letting go of their dream home and renting something cheaper in order to build a better financial future.

Whatever you are being challenged to release, do so with an open heart. Then let go and breathe. You may find it's the first time in a while.

May you have peace in your life,
Kim